You really love your partner, but intimacy between you two isn’t working. The frustration and hurt are becoming harder to ignore.
Is it difficult to talk about sex?
Maybe it’s hard to find the right words to start the conversation, yet the silences could speak volumes. When you do try, it can end in guilt, resentment, feeling stuck, or even tears. Sometimes you actually make an intention or plan together, but it never seems to get off the ground.
You don’t want to feel like you’ve hit a dead end anymore. Even the best relationships require help, and seeking couples therapy shows that you’re paying attention to the health of your partnership.
You don’t want to feel like you’ve hit a dead end anymore. Even the best relationships require help, and seeking couples therapy shows that you’re paying attention to the health of your partnership.
HOW CAN COUPLES SEX THERAPY HELP YOU?
Sex therapy for couples focuses on the physical and emotional issues affecting your sexual connection. Talking about sex can be difficult—it’s often sensitive, vulnerable, and hard to put into words. A skilled therapist can turn these conversations into ones that are insightful, supportive, and productive.
Not all couples therapists address sexual issues, and not all sex therapists work with couples. As both a certified sex therapist and couples therapist, I have the specialized training and experience to help you understand how your relationship impacts your intimacy and work through those challenges together.
Not all couples therapists address sexual issues, and not all sex therapists work with couples. As both a certified sex therapist and couples therapist, I have the specialized training and experience to help you understand how your relationship impacts your intimacy and work through those challenges together.
Sex therapy isn't just about sex
If you’re not clear on how to address stalemates around sex, you’re certainly not alone. The truth is, while sex is can be a sensitive topic, many couples aren’t taught how to communicate through conflicts. There are likely pre-existing patterns of avoidance, abandonment, and trouble getting past old resentments.
How you resolve differences in your relationship will show up in how you have sex.
My approach to couples therapy is holistic. You’ll quickly see how well you care for each other impacts how honest you can be—and that’s the foundation of intimacy. We’ll focus on building skills that strengthen your entire relationship. Additionally, we’ll explore how your history and values shape who you are and influence your expectations in partnership.
HOW COUPLES THERAPY WORKS
While each treatment plan is UNIQUE, here’s what you can expect:
STEP 1.
Identify realistic goals:
When we start, we’ll talk about the changes you’d like to see as a couple. Together, we’ll explore how sex and other current issues are impacting your relationship satisfaction. From there, we will create a roadmap that ensures we’re focused on your treatment goals as a team.
STEP 2.
Challenge sex myths:
Both individuals and couples can hold harmful stereotypes about what sex “should” (or shouldn’t) be. Negative feelings about yourself, your desirability, or assumptions about what you are supposed to do in bed will interfere with being a present partner. Couples therapy will challenge these limiting beliefs and misinformation, fostering a healthier understanding of sex. Shifting these perspectives opens up new possibilities and opportunities.
STEP 3.
Practice healthy communication:
Poor communication is a common cause of, or contributor to, sex problems. Conflict resolution doesn’t always come naturally, and you may not have seen how to build a healthy relationship in your early life. My goal is to help you truly listen to each other so you can feel closer and more in sync. I’ll offer coaching and insights into where communication is breaking down or harmful. You and your partner will have the chance to practice and troubleshoot new tools in session.
STEP 4.
Get useful at-home exercises:
When couples start sex therapy, learning how to apply things at home can be exciting. However, some may worry about “failing” or being asked to do things they’re not ready for. The focus of your work between sessions is to deepen connection and curiosity, not on specific sex acts. I make suggestions only after careful consideration, and you’ll always have my support in setting and respecting boundaries that feel right for you.
MY THERAPY PRACTICE IN SAN FRANCISCO, CALIFORNIA
Avoiding intimacy problems can sink an otherwise healthy partnership.
You deserve a vibrant, connected sex life! Couples who invest in therapy can unlock new possibilities—not just in sex, but in so many aspects of their relationship. Together, as a team, I’d love to help you explore negative patterns affecting your happiness as a couple. If you feel something needs to change, contact me for a free consultation.
I work with individuals of all genders, sexual identities, and relationship structures, including those in non-monogamous relationships. I’m an ally to sex workers and have advanced knowledge of kink practices. Many of my clients are LGBTQIA+, and I often work with people from mixed ethnic and cultural backgrounds (like myself), including first- and second-generation immigrants and BIPOC clients. Come as you are.
I work with individuals of all genders, sexual identities, and relationship structures, including those in non-monogamous relationships. I’m an ally to sex workers and have advanced knowledge of kink practices. Many of my clients are LGBTQIA+, and I often work with people from mixed ethnic and cultural backgrounds (like myself), including first- and second-generation immigrants and BIPOC clients. Come as you are.
