Insight into Intimacy

Couples and Individual Therapy for Sex and Relationships

Deva Segal, LMFT, CST
In-Person Appointments
in San Francisco, CA

You’re living the life you’ve worked hard for.

Your friends call you dedicated, high-achieving, and successful.

From the outside it may look like you have it together.

But there’s one part of your life that’s not going according to plan…

Sex.

Low libido

Difficulties with arousal

Mismatches with your partner(s)

Compulsive behaviors

Checked out during sex

Performance Anxiety

Craving exploration

Actual physical pain

If this sounds like you, then you may be dealing with repetitive, unproductive discussions at home, frustrating late-night Google searches, or directionless conversations with your therapist.

Do you ever have moments when you feel “broken”? Like something is wrong with you or your relationship, and you’re unsure if it can ever really change.

Maybe you’ve started pulling away from dating or intimacy with your partner altogether.

Look, I get it. Problems with sex can feel frustrating, isolating, or impossible to talk about.

You’re not alone. Sex ed with your 8th grade gym teacher—or an awkward parent talk, if it even happened—probably didn’t prepare you for physical intimacy, communication, or relationships as an adult. Add cultural, religious, and gender expectations, and it’s easy to feel disconnected from yourself and unsure of what’s true.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Hi, I’m Deva

(she/her, pronounced ‘diva’)

As a psychotherapist for individuals and couples and a certified sex therapist, I see how much client’s inner lives actually show up in sex and intimacy. With over a decade of experience and in-depth training in sexual concerns and relationships, I can tell you there is no one right way to be healthy or normal in your sexuality. Talking about sex openly can be vulnerable and scary. It is also rich, creative, and enlightening when you have the right support.

Whether you’ve been feeling stuck for 15 days or 15 years, there’s a way through.

Sex can be fun, interesting, connected, and free from worries.

I’m not here to just help you have more sex. I’m here to support you in having sex that’s WORTH having.

You might have tried some band-aid solutions that worked a little. Trust me, I love easy wins and solutions that work right now.

But the reality is sexual problems are not always just about sex.

Sex is complex and relates to many parts of you. Digging into just how your history, stressors, and current circumstances actually impact you will set you up for the lasting change that you’re ready for.

I help you connect the dots from your sexual self to your whole life, not apart from it.

All desires are okay – even no desire.

No matter where you’re at, sex therapy can help you gain more useful insights to relationship patterns, learn about your wants and how to communicate them, feel more relaxed with partners, and understand your body’s reactions.

You deserve to have tools to help you feel more empowered and hopeful.

Therapy with me looks like:

Step 1: ASSESSMENT. We’ll begin with an in-depth assessment to understand who you are and identify how we want to shape your care. We will explore what “good sex” looks like and what it means to you.

Step 2: SET GOALS. We’ll create a customized pathway to your goals—every client is unique. And as you gain new insight, your vision may evolve from what you first imagined when we began working together.

Step 3: SUPPORT. As we progress, we’ll explore how and when your challenges arise and influence your erotic self. Together, we’ll uncover where you need the most support and build the tools to move forward successfully.

Problems with sex will make you question if you should stay in your relationship or if you're even able to have a relationship at all.

Living in shame or fear, thinking you’ll never be able to change not does not have to be your life.

You don’t have to figure this out alone. I got you.

Let’s begin with a free consultation.

Schedule a 20 minute call to talk more about how I can help.

Free Guide For Couples & Individuals

The 7 Insights That Change Everything in Sex Therapy — Instant Access

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this free guide pulls back the curtain on the patterns I see most often in my work. These are the turning points where people stop feeling stuck and finally see a path forward.

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