While sexual issues can be tough to live with and impact others, my goal is to help you develop your own self-compassion and reduce judgements about your struggle. I will help you find a sense of ease, dignity, and curiosity about these parts of you. Types of sexual issues that I have experience or interest in:
What sex therapy is: Sex therapy is a discussion about your sexual thoughts, experiences, and physiological functioning and any distress it causes – just like other talk therapies. It can feel vulnerable and awkward to discuss your intimate thoughts with another person, but most people find out they wished they had an outlet to talk about these things sooner! I take a holistic view of sex in your therapy. Sex is both a direct experience and a symbol of something else. The deeper we explore, we more we find out how sex can be linked to your creativity, play, pleasure, joy, sadness, rage, loss, and renewal.
What sex therapy is not: I integrate sex as a dimension of general therapy; however, no client is required to talk about things they are not comfortable with. There is never erotic touch with me or examinations of any kind. Any touch exercises suggested during session with your partner will be clothes-on and for the purpose of connection – not for sexual stimulation. Any sexual exercises I may suggest will occur outside of session and only with your and, if applicable, your partners’ consent.I welcome clients across the sexual and gender minority spectrums – LBGTQIA+ folks, trans* and gender non-binary, kink/BDSM practices, sex workers, and consensual non-monogamy/polyamory. I am influenced by the works of David Schnarch, Esther Perel, Peggy Kleinplatz, and Jack Morin (my human sexuality instructor).
“Sex not as something we do, but a place that we go” – Esther Perel