What sex therapy is: Sex therapy is a discussion about your sexual thoughts, experiences, feelings, physiological functioning and any distress it causes – just like other talk therapies. It can feel vulnerable and awkward to discuss your intimate thoughts with another person, but most people find out they wished they had an outlet to talk about these things sooner! I take a holistic view of sex in your therapy. Sex is both a direct experience and a symbol of something else. The deeper we explore, we more we find out how sex can be linked to your creativity, play, pleasure, joy, sadness, rage, loss, and renewal.
What sex therapy is not: I integrate sex as a dimension of general therapy; however, no client is required to talk about things they are not comfortable with. Sex therapy is not sexual surrogacy. There is never erotic touch, sexual enactments, or physical exams with me. If you’re with your partner in couples therapy, any touch exercises suggested during session will be clothes-on and for the purpose of connection – not for sexual stimulation. Any exercises I suggest outside of session will occur only with your and any partner’s consent.
“Sex not as something we do, but a place that we go” – Esther Perel