Insight into Intimacy

Couples and Individual Therapy for Sex and Relationships

Deva Segal, LMFT, CST
In-Person Appointments in San Francisco, CA

The reality is sexual problems are not always just about sex.

Sex is complex and relates to many parts of you. Digging into just how your history, stressors, and current circumstances actually impact you will set you up for lasting changes that you’re really looking for.

I help you connect the dots from your sexual self to your whole life, not apart from it.

All desires are okay – even no desire. What you should get out of sex therapy is more useful insights to relationship patterns you get into, learning about your wants and how to communicate them, more relaxation with partners, and understanding your body’s reactions.

You deserve to have tools to help you feel more empowered and hopeful.

Multicultural couples counseling in California virtually

Hi, I’m Deva

(she/her, pronounced ‘diva’)

As a psychotherapist and certified sex therapist for individuals and couples, I see how much client’s inner lives actually show up in sex and intimacy. With over 7 years of experience and in-depth training in sexual concerns and relationships, I can tell you there is no one right way to be healthy or normal in your sexuality. Talking about sex openly can be vulnerable and scary. It is also rich, creative, and enlightening when you have the right support.

Whether you’ve been feeling stuck for 15 days or 15 years, there’s a way through.

Sex can be fun, interesting, connected, and free from worries.

I’m not here to just help you have more sex. I’m here to support you in having sex that’s WORTH having.

You might have tried some band-aid solutions that worked a little. Trust me, I love easy wins and solutions that work right now..

The reality is sexual problems are not always just about sex.

Sex is complex and relates to many parts of you. Digging into just how your history, stressors, and current circumstances actually impact you will set you up for lasting changes that you’re really looking for.

I help you connect the dots from your sexual self to your whole life, not apart from it.

All desires are okay – even no desire. What you should get out of sex therapy is more useful insights to relationship patterns you get into, learning about your wants and how to communicate them, more relaxation with partners, and understanding your body’s reactions.

You deserve to have tools to help you feel more empowered and hopeful.

Problems with sex and relationships can look different for each of us.

Here are some topics that I treat in my therapy practice.

COUPLES THERAPY​

Relationship Therapy

Partnerships are much more than just sex. Yet if you’re committed to someone, differences in what you want are inevitable. Figuring out how to get on the same page takes strong communication.

couples therapy

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DESIRE AND LIBIDO

Individual Therapy

If you’ve been told that sex should be easy, hot, and happen “naturally”, you’re not alone. It’s easy to get caught up in how sex is supposed to be, leaving you frustrated on why it’s not that way for you.

DESIRE AND LIBIDO

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SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION

Pain and Performance

All genders can have problems with pain during sex or problems with their sexual functioning and “performance”. Few people talk about it. Next steps are to get accurate and supportive information.

SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION

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SEX ADDICTION

Out-of-Control Sexual Behaviors

If you no longer feel like you’re in charge of your thoughts or behaviors with sex, things may feel out of your control. There is help to find out what is in the way.

SEX ADDICTION

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Therapy together with me will look like:

Step 1: Begin with an in-depth assessment to understand who you are and identify how we want to shape your care. We will explore what “good sex” looks and means to you.
Step 2: Create a customized pathway to your goals. Every client is unique, and with more information, your end goal might look different than you imagine when we first begin working together.
Step 3: Over the months, we will see how and when your challenges show up and influence your erotic self. We’ll find the areas where you need support and build on your strengths to implement tools.